Here are two simple gifts that can make your sweetheart happy. And they won’t cost you a cent!
The secret is to give them what you, yourself want most:
1. Give them your undivided attention
Do you remember when you were little and your mom stopped whatever she was doing when you came home and gave you her sole attention? Or when the whole class was waving their hands wildly and your favorite teacher picked you to call on?
Even as adults, it still feels good. And it is a gift that we can give to another. Often our attention is pulled in sixteen different directions. When we can stop, just for a moment, put everything else aside, and focus just on what our partner is saying, the effect is magical.
What you are saying by this action is, “Just for this moment, you are the most important thing in my world.” Do it and see.
2. Give them respect
When you give another respect you are saying, I am proud to know you, I am happy you are in my life. The phrases are easy, but they must be sincere:
- “I am so proud of you when you do that.”
- “I really respect how you handled that situation.”
- “I admire you when you…”
Why does it work?
It seems that we often wanted attention from our primary caretake, usually mom. This was especially true when younger siblings came along to divide her time. In the same way, we yearned for that more distant parent to be proud of us, to give us respect.
Sometimes our significant other stands in for that absent parent. Just for a moment we can let down our guard and be five again. We hear in our heart the true meaning of what they are saying. “I am so glad that you are in my life.”
Give these two simple gifts of love: respect and attention.
- It doesn’t cost a penny.
- It takes very little time.
- It can make all the difference in the world to your relationship
Respect and attention.